Psychosexual problems - (Premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, frigidity)
Premature Ejaculation
Knowing that there is no physical reason for the occurence of premature ejaculation doesn't make it any less disturbing if it's happening to you. The whole male ego begins to feel very insecure if this becomes a regular occurrence. It is very easy to be drawn into a spiral of anxiety about poor performance, so that successive sexual encounters reinforce the idea that you are going to ejaculate too soon. This, of course tends to become a self - fulfilling phrophecy so that the first signs of any sexual arousal between you and your partner,trigger what is fast becoming a learned response. You immediately begin to become anxious about whether it will or will not happen again. At this point you are already losing touch with the natural rythm of the experience. Your body becomes agitated as well as highly stimulated and you are magnetized by the very thing you fear most.
The essence of hypnosis, is, in a word relaxation. This relaxation can create a rather unique state of suspension in which the focus on conscious mode dissolves sufficiently for us to be able to address the sub-conscious. Normally we are screened off from this part of ourselves but it is really here that we install our habitual thought, feeling and emotional and behavioral patterns. If these patterns are reinforced repeatedly over a period of time they will become our automatic responses in the situations in which they have been evoked. This is wonderful if these are the appropriate responses, but it becomes a problem if they are, as in premature ejaculation, totally inappropriate.
In hypnosis we revamp the fixed response. We create a vivid alternative response which embodies all the things you do want to experience when you are having sex with your partner. So you begin to disconnect from the old negative responses. You begin to let go of the anxiety.
The arousal of emotions and feelings can be very strong during sex, what sustains the experience is being very immersed in the sensations of sex i.e being in a highly stimulated state, but at the same time being in a very calm state which is really part of relaxing into the whole experience. If your attention is not bound up exclusively and in an anxious way on your own body, but on your body and your partners body, the rythm of your partners responses then you are more relaxed and you become more involved in what you are experiencing and less involved with your thinking mind.
So we give direct suggestions that this is exactly what begins to happen as soon as there is any sexual arousal between you and your partner.
If the problem is stubborn then using self -hypnosis as well as the session will soon allow you to dissolve those very superficial anxieties and simply relax into your body and experience sex in the way that you want to.